In a study that asked 515 people why they entered into sex with someone, 50% of women and 52% of men said that they hoped to trigger a longer relationship.
Any kind of sexual stimulation triggers the dopamine system in the brain and can push you over that threshold into falling in love with that person, and in fact with orgasm there's a real flood of oxytocin and vasopressin and other chemicals in the brain associated with the feeling of deep attachment so casual sex is really never casual - unless you're so drunk that you can't remember it!"
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