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Psychotherapy for sexual concerns

It can feel like there are a million things that can become problematic about our relationship with sex. Whether you're experiencing sex addiction, worried about a loss of interest in sex, or hoping to work through a painful trauma, Psychotherapy can prove helpful.

Resolving sex-related problems with psychological therapy

Though it might not seem to be the case (because people are apprehensive about discussing this sort of thing with others), most people experience some form of sexual concern or problem during their lifetime: wanting ‘too much’ of it, not wanting ‘enough’ of it, avoiding it, fearing it, embarrassment in talking about it with your partner, loss of desire, addiction to pornography or infidelity . . . it seems like there are a million things that can become problematic about our relationship with sex, and with our sexual partners.

Some sexual difficulties can emerge in response to traumas such as assault or rape, but for many these problems arise seemingly without cause, or are actually related to other issues they are having in their romantic relationships, or other stresses in their lives.

What sexual problems have in common however, is how upsetting and disruptive they can be. Sometimes we may need help to get through these tough times, and therapy is the support system of choice for many in this situation.

Sex therapy can be undertaken alone or with your partner

Depending on the particular concern, and the preferences of you and your partner (if you have one), sex therapy can be undertaken alone or with your partner. You may find it more comfortable to begin exploring your problems alone, and to invite your partner to join you for therapy when you are ready for this to happen. There are no rules set in stone about how sex therapy should unfold, and your therapist will work together with you to ensure that the therapeutic experience is tailored truly to you and your needs.

Our therapists are experts in a wide variety of therapies and approaches, which they blend in various combinations to meet the vast range of sexual concerns that people have. These often include some mixture of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Systemic interventions including:

  • Sexual education
  • Sexual permission
  • Communication training
  • Assertiveness practice
  • Couple’s counselling
  • Non-demand pleasuring
  • Physical awareness and sensuality exercises
  • Exploration of issues that may be contributing to or maintaining current problems
  • Treating associated problems such as Depression, Anxiety or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Over the past half a century, the psychological and therapeutic understanding and treatment of sex has become much more enlightened. Where in the 19th and early 20th century the emphasis was on ‘normality’ vs ‘deviance’, the more modern emphasis has been on demystifying and destigmatizing the sexual experience.

Many sexual problems can be related to tensions with societal expectations or pressures, and pre-conceived opinions about what is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’. However, here at The House Partnership our therapists’ approach is emphatically open, accepting and non-judgemental. We aim to provide a safe space for you to explore your concerns and worries within, so that you can move towards the positive changes that you desire. We are not preoccupied with labelling or categorizing your problems: rather our concern is with understanding your experience and working collaboratively with you towards a positive, happy relationship with sex and your sexual partners.

The House Partnership, 27th June 2015

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