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Dr Mick Darby

Chartered Psychologist

Philosophy

In today’s world, our expectations can be influenced by stories of seemingly perfect lives, careers or relationships, in a world where it seems normal to be mentally, emotionally and physically healthy, successful and happy. Therefore, we tend to set such expectations for ourselves. So, it’s only natural to see mental health issues, unhappiness or suffering as disorders that need to be fixed or avoided at all cost. This is the point when many people come to therapy. 

But life, work and relationships are not easy. Everyone struggles. Indeed, it is perfectly normal to suffer psychologically as we go through life. Although you may feel broken at times, you are not. You are doing the best you can under challenging circumstances. Allowing yourself to accept a more compassionate view of yourself and those around you is more achievable than you might think, and is my starting point for psychological therapy that can be uplifting and regenerative.

Approach

Think of anything that could be called a disorder such as worry, depression, burnout, grief, anger, perfectionism, OCD, anxiety, PTSD, chronic pain or bipolar (to name just a few). At the heart of each of these lies a similar pattern of behaviour: trying – in vain – to fight or avoid our suffering. In fact, we humans spend so much time fighting against our own thoughts and feelings it can leave us feeling even more confused, trapped, frustrated, drained or fearful. Over time this can destroy our intimate, social and working relationships. Yet, for many of us this battle is repeated every single day. Does this sound familiar?

Study for Homage to the Square: Departing in Yellow, 1964, Josef Albers
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Counselling can help transform your current crisis into an opportunity for self-growth, where you discover strengths you may have forgotten and start behaving more like the person you want to be. My role is to help hold your pain as – together – we investigate your patterns of thinking and behaving, so you can use less energy fighting against yourself and spend more time moving towards a more meaningful and enjoyable life (in spite of the inevitable suffering that comes along with it). 

Therapy is about you and I working together; sharing, collaborating and trusting. You can discuss your challenges in complete confidence while I will offer you a caring and attentive ear. Together, we will design actions that will help you change your life direction. This can be challenging, nurturing and ultimately rewarding. Our focus will not be so much on your history, your condition or your disorder. We will concentrate on the options you have today to create the life you want.

Motivation

I have worked for many years as an executive coach, consultant and advisor. Yet, I have suffered greatly in my career and personal life. At times I have felt overwhelmed, confused, stuck and unhappy. My career and personal relationships were affected. So, I embarked upon a journey of self-discovery that was the hardest – yet most rewarding – challenge I’d ever undertaken. As a psychologist, I am here to support you on your journey towards a more meaningful and enjoyable life.

QUALIFICATIONS

BA Business Organisation
BA (Hons 1st Class) Psychological Science
Grad Dip Psychological Science
DPsych Counselling Psychology

THERAPIES I PRACTICE

CBT, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
Integrated Psychotherapy
Counselling & Counselling Psychology
ACT & Mindfulness

WHAT CAN I HELP WITH

OCD & Obsessions
Anger Problems
Relationship Issues
Depression & Unhappiness
Anxiety & Panic
Stress & Burnout