Simon Whalley
Last Updated on Wednesday, 24 August 2011 06:30 Saturday, 09 July 2011 07:02
Philosophy
As human beings we are not fixed entities but constant works-in-progress. My job is to help people discover possible alternatives to their fixed ways of seeing the world and to their ingrained patterns of living – both of which may be causing them to feel stuck in the past, or to feel consumed by present difficulties. A fundamental shift in perspective is often what's needed to allow people to move forward again.
More often than not this process of 'reframing' allows you to see that there are now some very clear choices facing you. Along with that may come a daunting sense of responsibility at having to act on those choices. This is seldom an easy process, and my role in the relationship is to help you to sustain your commitment making the choices that feel right to you.
Approach
While I work using CBT, existential and person-centred approaches, initially by far the most important process lies in building a solid relationship – an
entirely non-judgmental relationship based on complete honesty, and respect for you as a fellow human being.
Each of my clients is unique, and so therapy never follows a totally predictable path. This requires a fluidity of approach and the skill and experience to tailor my approach to suit each individual, recreating therapy anew rather than restricting myself to one particular technique or theoretical perspective.
Motivation
It's endlessly rewarding working with people who have taken the decision to enter therapy. Sitting alongside clients who are experiencing difficulties and helping them find new ways ahead is certainly a challenge, and yet it's often immensely exciting, especially when, through therapy, people arrive at discoveries that lead to significant positive change in their lives
My special interest is in researching what it feels like to be in therapy and how individuals may vary in their experience of the therapeutic process. I don't think we yet fully understand this. In particular, my current doctorate thesis examines the stigma often felt by individuals seeking therapy, and how this affects the process for better or worse.
